Am I an ACoA?

  • Do you fear authority figures and angry people?
  • Did your parents or relatives argue constantly?
  • Did you avoid bringing friends home because of drinking or some other dysfunctional behaviours in the home?
  • Do you constantly seek approval or praise but have difficulty accepting a compliment when one comes your way?
  • Do you judge yourself without mercy and guess at what is normal?
  • Do you behave one way in public and another way at home?
  • As an adult, do you feel immature? Do you feel like you are a child inside?
  • Do you focus outside yourself for love or security?

Answering ‘yes’ to 3 or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. We welcome you to attend an ACA meeting and learn more.

Excerpted from Fellowship Text pp. xii-xiii (2006):

“Never before in the history of Twelve Step programs has a fellowship brought together such a diverse group of recovering people that includes adult children of alcoholics, codependents, and addicts of various sorts. The program is Adult Children of Alcoholics. The term “adult child” is used to describe adults who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes and who exhibit identifiable traits that reveal past abuse or neglect. The group includes adults raised in homes without the presence of alcohol or drugs. These ACA members have the trademark presence of abuse, shame, and abandonment found in alcoholic homes.

Our 30 years of experience has shown that adult children who attend our meetings, work the Twelve Steps, and find a Higher Power experience astonishing improvement in body, mind, and spirit. Ours is one of the few Twelve Step fellowships that embraces the difficult task of trauma work, which can often lead to an exciting journey to the Inner Child or True Self. Along with sponsorship, we encourage informed counseling to help the adult child accomplish the greatest level of emotional healing from an abusive upbringing.”